Barnabas File

Jamais Cascio, an American futurist and anthropologist, proposes it is time for a new term—BANI—Brittle, Anxious, Non-linear, Incomprehensible—to address our present context.  Although these shifts disturb our personal and organizational equilibrium, Cascio proposes Positive BANI, a set of mindsets to counter the chaos:   Bendable (to counter Brittle) Attentive (to counter Anxious) Neuroflexible (to counter Non-linear) Interconnected (to counter Incomprehensible)   Coaching in a BANI environment requires us to focus on "Capacity Coaching" (how to expand our capacity and options). Since coaches use powerful questions that move people from dependency to autonomy, we can adapt those to address the specific "fractures" BANI creates.   Here are specific coaching tips and adapted questions for each BANI pillar:   Coaching the "Brittle" (Fragility)   When a client feels their career or project is brittle, they are often paralyzed by t...

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” --Ephesians 4:2, NIV   It happened decades ago, but I still remember the incident.  Another student and I were enrolled in a graduate program at a seminary. We were enjoying the program, but we had some similar questions to ask the director of the program.  We set up an appointment and showed up promptly.  We asked our questions in an open, friendly, concise manner.  What I remember most about the conversation was the program director spent most of the time avoiding eye contact, browsing through papers on his desk, and grudgingly offering some clarity about our inquiries.   How often do you find yourself in those types of conversations?  You want to share something with another person, and they spend their time looking at their phone or changing the subject.  How’s does that make you feel?  And to be honest, have you ever s...

In my work with the Summit Coach Training, I teach several times a year.  Most of our coaches-in-training are people with experience in the helping professions—clergy, therapists, social workers.  In a recent class made up of pastoral leaders, an idea emerged that I found invaluable.   First, some background.  In coaching, we teach that people are smart.  Our clients know more about their problems than the coach does.  They are unique individuals with various gifts, talents, and experiences that they can draw upon.  They can make decisions and pursue their goals.  The role of the coach is not to solve the client’s problems, but to help each client ascertain what they want to accomplish, what resources they have to get there, identify barriers and how they might be overcome, and celebrate their achievements.   As we were coaching around challenges that our class members face, we realized that taking a coachin...

When we consider resources that a coach might suggest a client pursue in faith coaching, there are many!  Please understand as I address this topic, I come from a Christian perspective (note the “a” and not “the”). However, there are rich spiritual resources connected to all religious faiths and to no particular religious faith.   Perhaps a starting point comes from the Methodist or Wesleyan tradition.    The Wesleyan Quadrilateral is credited to Methodist founder John Wesley.   This model bases its teaching on four sources as the basis of theological and doctrinal development. These four sources are chiefly scripture (the Bible), along with tradition, reason, and Christian experience.   As Christians, we are not bound by tradition, but we have two thousand years of tradition upon which we can draw.  Tradition is not simply about organization or ecclesiology, but ways in which believers approach God—spiritual practices (such a...

In the last few years, religion scholars and the popular press have written much about the “Nones”—people who profess no religious faith.     Ryan Burge and Tony Jones have found that it is not that simple.    The Nones are often thought of as a single group, but Jones and Burge have found they’re not. There are the Nones in Name Only (NiNOs), Spiritual but Not Religious, the Dones and the Zealous Atheists.  There not discreet boxes but gradients.   What this means for coaches is that we may find ourselves coaching about existential or faith issues when we least expect it.  Our clients may say that they have no particular religious views, but some are more spiritual than they think!   All coaches—Christian or not—can their support clients in authentic meaning-making by exploring their inner world, uncovering  and integrating their true selves.  Faith coaching acknowledges and accepts the inherent ambiguities and tensions ...

“Over 85% of the world population identifies with an organized religion while millions more practice folk religions and spiritual beliefs. Humans may be innately spiritual, learning existential views early through family traditions, community practices, and cultural narratives.”   You may be surprised to know that this quote comes from a study by the International Coaching Federation Thought Leadership Institute.  The study points out that it is typical for individuals to ask existential questions, often focusing on the big questions of human life like purpose, freedom, and meaning. Religion and spirituality enrich the human experience through meaning-making and help find one’s place in the word.   For those coaches who follow the Christian faith, the opportunity to “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18, NIV) is a given in our lives and will inform our coaching as well.  However, ho...

  Have you ever worked with a leader who had the knowledge and training to do the job, but lacked the ability to effectively work with others? In both coaching and leadership, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is often the "missing link" between technical competence and actual effectiveness. While Intellectual Intelligence (IQ) might get you the job, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is what helps you keep it and excel in it.   The most widely accepted framework, popularized by Daniel Goleman, breaks EQ into four core domains.   1.          Self-Awareness (The Foundation).   You cannot manage what you do not notice. Self-awareness is the ability to recognize your own emotions “in the moment” and understand your typical triggers. Two aspects of this are emotional literacy—being able to clearly name the feeling  ( e.g., "I’m feeling dismissed") and impact awareness--recognizing how your mood affects the energy of the people around ...

As a leadership coach, I walk alongside individuals who feel a strong call to their vocation.  Despite their commitment, they often face challenges that they want to turn into opportunities.  As a coach, I act as a strategic partner who helps them bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to be. Coaching is future-oriented, focusing on actionable growth and personal potential.  Coaching looks forward, not backward, encouraging the client’s focus, growth, decision-making, and resilience.   What can a coach provide for you? The most important offerings a coach provides can be categorized into four core "pillars" of value.   1. Radical Clarity and Focus.  Many people seek coaching because they feel "stuck" or overwhelmed by choices. A coach helps you filter out the noise to identify what truly matters by working with you to identify clear, actional goals and ensuring that daily actions and long-term goals align with your dee...

Coaching—executive coaching, life coaching, leadership coaching—is relatively new, but the impact of coaches in both personal and professional life has been significant.    Coaches have a certain "soft skill" DNA. The best candidates are typically professionals in "people-centric" fields who have already shown an ability to encourage and develop others.    I suggest that there are seven types of individuals who may be ready for coach training and have the potential to use those skills effectively with others.      1.          Clergy leader.      Pastoral leaders are called to do many things, but one that cannot be neglected is the development of others in the Christian faith.    These people may be staff or lay members of the congregation.    In Ephesians, we are reminded, “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors a...

In a beautiful and arresting poem, the writer of Ecclesiastes reminds us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”  (3:1, NIV) As we enter into a new year, we naturally reflect on the past, the present, and the future.  In this liminal time, we would do well to consider how we can most effectively use our time in the coming days.  Certainly, as the writer states, there is a time for everything but what is the right time?  We can’t do it all at once and, as good stewards of the time, talents, and skills with which God has blessed us, how do we use those resources effectively? In working with coaching clients, I often find myself engaging with them about the best use of their time.  They are usually gifted and motivated individuals who have much to offer, so there are many demands on their time and energy.  People seek them out to accept new responsibilities on a regular basis. How do they make good choice...

One of the biggest challenges of training coaches is helping them get over the idea that they are problem solvers.  Summit Coach Training participants usually come from the people development professions—clergy, counselors, consultants, not-for profit leaders.  The are used to people coming to them seeking answers.  These helpers usually feel compelled to give them answers!   The real goal of coaching is working a client to discover and use their skills and experience to solve their own challenges.  The key to good coaching is not the “what” of problem solving but the “who” of the client as problem solver.   Ultimately, coaching seeks to be a transformative process for the client emphasizing not “what” the client does but “who” the client is.  A good coach walks alongside the client as they discover new ways of thinking and engaging based on how they process and act.  A good coach does this in several ways.   Fir...